Is marriage a lifelong burden or endless happiness?

"They lived long and happily". Yes, certainly! It can be possible in a magic fairy tale or in your dreams. Almost all women without an exception, marrying for the first time, expect that they will live as in a fairy tale from which they have grown. However the real life offers a little smaller possibilities. At least, it is for 50 percent of pairs - such is frequency of divorces.
What is marriage exactly? Is it a lifelong burden or endless happiness? Is it a heaven or a hell?

Each person has his opinion. And we can't precisely tell is marriage well or badly. For every person this is personal decision. As for me, I can tell that marriage is a lifelong burden and just a formality.

If people are happy, the marriage registration isn't important. It is possible to live without this stamp in your passport. Registration of marriage - is only formality on which people go for the several reasons:
- money;
- necessity (the birth of a child, religious backgrounds);
- appearance, passion.

But despite of it, people marry, people get divorced. But what to marry for, if soon it leads to divorce?

Here are the basic subjects of disputes between spouses: money, sex, the way of communication, adultery, upbringing of children, house duties. But not subjects of disputes, but how you argue, strengthens or weakens your marriage.

Disagreements are inevitable. All marriages have the launches and falling, these are parts of our lives.
But spouses should be able react correctly to disagreements and disputes, to try to solve problems talking, instead of shouting and rowing.
But there are other disturbing signals:

- you are constantly in a struggle condition with each other;
- your marriage brings to you more sorrows, than satisfaction;
- you avoid the accompany of each other;
- in the past your sexual life gave you a lot of pleasure, and now it doesn't;
- you have started to deceive each other;
- you are a burden on each other.

So, and now think, whether to live life with disputes and disagreements in marriage or to enjoy each other out of marriage, without shackling your life and your own rights and duties.
Abraham Lincoln said : "Marriage is not paradise, is not hell, marriage is simply a purgatory."
Really. You can choose your own way of solving conflicts, how to behave in any situation. And depending on it, your marriage can be for you either paradise or hell.

But I nevertheless hold the opinion that marriage - is burden. And now we can see no princesses and handsome princes on white horses. And there's no fairy tale. We live in reality. This is real life. And in real life there's no ideal marriages without disputes.