Is marriage a lifelong burden or endless happiness? Version # 2 (Corrected)

"They lived long and happily". Yes, certainly! It can be possible in a magic fairy tale or in your dreams. Almost all women without an exception, marrying for the first time, expect that they will live as in a fairy tale from which they have grown. However the real life offers little smaller possibilities. At least, it is for 50 percent of pairs – this is frequency of divorces. 

What is marriage exactly? Is it a lifelong burden or endless happiness? Is it a heaven or a hell?

Each person has his opinion. And we can't precisely tell is marriage well or bad. For every person this is a personal decision. As for me, I can tell that marriage is a lifelong burden and just a formality.

If people are happy, the marriage registration isn't important. It is possible to live without this stamp in your passport. Registration of marriage - is an only formality on which people go for the several reasons:

- money;

- necessity (the birth of a child, religious backgrounds);

- appearance, passion.

But despite, people marry, people get divorced. But what to marry for if soon it leads to divorce?

Here are the basic subjects of disputes between spouses: money, sex, the way of communication, adultery, upbringing of children, house duties. But not the subjects of disputes strengthen or weaken your marriage, but how you argue.

Disagreements are inevitable. All marriages have the flights and fallings, these are parts of our lives. 

But spouses should be able to react correctly to disagreements and disputes, to try to solve problems talking, instead of shouting and rowing. 

But there are other disturbing signals:

- you are constantly in a condition of struggle with each other;

- your marriage brings you more sorrows, than satisfaction;

- you avoid the company of each other;

- in the past your sexual life gave you a lot of pleasure, and now it doesn't;

- you have started to deceive each other;

- you are a burden to each other.

So, and now think, whether to live life with disputes and disagreements in marriage or to enjoy each other out of marriage, without shackling your life and your own rights and duties.

Abraham Lincoln said : "Marriage is not paradise, is not hell, marriage is simply a purgatory."

You can choose your own way of solving conflicts, how to behave in any situation. And depending on it, your marriage can be for you either paradise or hell.

But I hold the opinion that marriage - is burden nevertheless. And now we can see no princesses and handsome princes on white horses. And there's no fairy tale. We live in reality. This is real life. And in real life there are no ideal marriages without disputes.

The 8th of March :)

The 8th of March in Ukraine is often associated with spring. Ukrainian women especially think of this day as a sign that the spring is coming. Why? Because besides being the first spring celebration, this is International Women’s Day, the day when we women are specially treated just for being women. From the historical point of view, the 8th of March is important as the day of women’s solidarity in the struggle for their rights.


History

It was not gifts or even attention that the women of New York demanded in March 1857 when they marched in the streets. They demanded basic rights, including better conditions for work and to shorten the working day. As a result, the trade union was created, and women finally could become trade union members.

In 1910 there was an international conference of socialist women held in Copenhagen, and that is when Clara Zetkin (the wife of Russian socialist Ocip Zetkin) suggested setting up the /Day of Solidarity of Working Women of the World/ as a contribution to democracy and equalization of rights with the men. On the 8th of March, 1917, women’s demonstrations in tsarist Russia resulted in the tsar’s edict giving women the right to vote. And at last, 1975 became a year when the United Nations declared the 8th of March as /International Women’s Day/ for women’s rights.

However, today the celebration has lost its political nuance, at least in Ukraine, and as mentioned above, is mostly a celebration of the vernal season.


The 8th of March today 

Although women look forward to this day, at the same time many women are rather skeptical about this celebration. They would say, “Why is it the only day we should be treated in a special way? Why not everyday?” I read some sarcastic comments that the 8th of March is the “Day of Men’s Hypocrisy.” Women are treated wonderfully, but this is one of those rare days when they are happy.

Well, this is the pattern that I admit exists in some families. But I am sure this mostly depends on the relationships and not on the date in the calendar. Though I would agree with those women in the point that, yes, it is great that we actually did receive at last our rights some day in the past, because we are equal physically and mentally with men from the very beginning of the Universe, and so we are naturally meant to have the same rights.


What Women Want
Almost all women like flowers, and most men know this. The men who do not present flowers on March 8 do not necessary dislike flowers; they just want to be different from others. Statistics shows that 45 percent of the male population considers flowers the best gift. Personally I do not mind, because it’s a spring celebration, and spring is the time of nature waking up after winter. Blossoming flowers are one of the first signs of spring.

In Ukraine a woman, especially a woman in love, is associated with spring - Lady Spring. So whatever you present it is important that she feels this way - to be in love, to be loved and appreciated. It should not necessarily be a huge or significant thing. The gift itself is not that important - it is the attention that matters. Just think what she needs to feel that way and what you can do to make it happen. There is nobody else who knows her better than you. Arrange this special day so that she can feel the spring’s breath and fresh air on her face like she feels opening the window into the blossoming world. The important thing is to make the spring blossom in her heart.

Springtime (:

Springtime… love is in the air.
Flowers growing everywhere. 
Take off shoes and feel the grass.
Lay back there let the hours pass…

Is marriage a lifelong burden or endless happiness?

"They lived long and happily". Yes, certainly! It can be possible in a magic fairy tale or in your dreams. Almost all women without an exception, marrying for the first time, expect that they will live as in a fairy tale from which they have grown. However the real life offers a little smaller possibilities. At least, it is for 50 percent of pairs - such is frequency of divorces.
What is marriage exactly? Is it a lifelong burden or endless happiness? Is it a heaven or a hell?

Each person has his opinion. And we can't precisely tell is marriage well or badly. For every person this is personal decision. As for me, I can tell that marriage is a lifelong burden and just a formality.

If people are happy, the marriage registration isn't important. It is possible to live without this stamp in your passport. Registration of marriage - is only formality on which people go for the several reasons:
- money;
- necessity (the birth of a child, religious backgrounds);
- appearance, passion.

But despite of it, people marry, people get divorced. But what to marry for, if soon it leads to divorce?

Here are the basic subjects of disputes between spouses: money, sex, the way of communication, adultery, upbringing of children, house duties. But not subjects of disputes, but how you argue, strengthens or weakens your marriage.

Disagreements are inevitable. All marriages have the launches and falling, these are parts of our lives.
But spouses should be able react correctly to disagreements and disputes, to try to solve problems talking, instead of shouting and rowing.
But there are other disturbing signals:

- you are constantly in a struggle condition with each other;
- your marriage brings to you more sorrows, than satisfaction;
- you avoid the accompany of each other;
- in the past your sexual life gave you a lot of pleasure, and now it doesn't;
- you have started to deceive each other;
- you are a burden on each other.

So, and now think, whether to live life with disputes and disagreements in marriage or to enjoy each other out of marriage, without shackling your life and your own rights and duties.
Abraham Lincoln said : "Marriage is not paradise, is not hell, marriage is simply a purgatory."
Really. You can choose your own way of solving conflicts, how to behave in any situation. And depending on it, your marriage can be for you either paradise or hell.

But I nevertheless hold the opinion that marriage - is burden. And now we can see no princesses and handsome princes on white horses. And there's no fairy tale. We live in reality. This is real life. And in real life there's no ideal marriages without disputes.

My poem.

If I had you,  I would take you with me every day.

If I had you, I would look into your eye.

If I had you, I would give you my hand and wouldn’t release.

Only if I really had you.

If I had you, I would spend a lot of time with you.

If I had you, I would acquaint you with my mom and friends.

If I had you, you would never learn the life can be bad.

Only if I really had you.

If I had you, you and I would be together in life and death.

If I had you, we would be very happy together.

Oh, if I had you, my only love!

My beloved  PHOTOCAMERA!